A distinct characteristic of INFJs is their tendency to be extremely moralistic and seek consistency in moral values.
Even regarding all the speculations surrounding personality tests, I can’t help but identify strongly with this characteristic. It is the explanation of my biggest pet peeve: inconsistency in character.
We’re not suppose to judge… but let’s face it, we all do it. I realized I judge people severely on the way they treat other people. Especially for those who claim to follow Christ, I always except them to treat others in whatever situation with respect, consideration, value, and worth. I’m not saying we are perfectly capable of this. God knows how many times I’ve failed to do so. But I try….with every ounce of who I am, I try.
I recently had two encounters where this pet peeve of mine struck. What bothered me the most about this encounter was how habituated we all have become to inconsistency in the way we treat one another. “He’s a good guy and a friend, its just the way he is with girls sometimes”
"She’s really nice.. it’s just at work.. she can get really mean."
How many times have we heard something like that? And how many times do we just accept it?
But I refuse to accept it.
If that guy is a good guy and a good friend, it means he treats people with respect and values his friends…So then why doesn’t he treat girls with the same value and consideration?
If that girl is described “nice,” doesn’t it mean she treats people with kindness? Does her kindness disappear at work? Is it something that can be turned off?
I don’t think people can be genuinely caring and treat others poorly at the same time. One aspect must be a lie.
I attempted to address the matter of inconsistency with these encounters. But it was like I was speaking another language. The counterparts interpreted what I said to something completely else. I was so dumbfounded by their interpretation that I couldn’t respond. Its was like speaking English to someone who didn’t even know the alphabet.
Frustrations of an INFJ-_- UGH.